the women are the strong ones

1. You are better off without a man. We are told our whole lives that nothing we aspire to can be as great as being a spouse or mother. That so rarely works out in our favor. Why not, instead of needing validation in the form of a man you become the person you were always meant to be. There’s nothing wrong with coupling up and having kids, but when that’s all you feel you should be? You’ve come to a very dark place.
2. This extends into wanting a relationship. Before you say, “No one finds me attractive,” or “I’ve always wanted to find that special someone,” you need to realize that you are under-rating yourself. You are putting your self-worth into another persons hands. And no matter how much they just adore and love you, you are not going to feel better about yourself. It’s all nice and well to have someone stroke your ego, but no one can give you the self-confidence you deserve.
3. By the way, that’s a terrible reason to want to be in a relationship.
4. Coupling up should happen because it’s what you both want and pleasant. Nothing is more important than reciprocation. Don’t fool yourself. Know yourself.
5. And this doesn’t mean that you do not deserve what you want or that you can’t find it within yourself or with another person. Perhaps you’re at an impasse. Ultimately, you don’t truly need them to continue on. So you’ve got to choose the action that will cause you both happiness, whether that’s parting ways or giving it a little more time.
6. OMG, no one else will find me attractive! Wrong, wrong, wrong! Given that you leave the house (or even if you don’t), at least one or more people will like you. The first person that finds you attractive should be YOU. The second can be a stranger you’re passing on the street, a friend, a lover, an old grocer that smiles nicely at you.
7. It doesn’t matter what others think. People will frown at you, laugh at you, & generally send you terrible messages. You’ve got to set those aside and in the end discard them. You know that on a bad day you treat people unfairly and it’s not truly personal. So why should you become so full of self doubt and self loathing over what some insensitive fucker said once three months ago? What someone very close to you said years ago?
8. The most beautiful and inspiring people in the world are committed to everything else besides vanity. Basically, they don’t care that they’re famous or beautiful. They’d give anything for people to talk about their family or their ambassadorship to China or what the weather’s like. More than that, they don’t understand the attention they’re getting and the terrible self-loathing they inspire in others. They want everyone to love their bodies and who they are. They want people to care more about the world and less about getting a nose job or the condition their hair’s in.
9. That’s just it, isn’t it? You shouldn’t be shallow. Do you think your life will change if you suddenly woke up one morning and were “one of the beautiful people?” I doubt you could handle the bad attention you would be getting-attention completely directed at the person you are on the outside and not the inside. Everyone thinks you’re barbie. They objectify you and ridicule you. They don’t care about your interests or your amazing personality or your talent. In the door you go. Now what? Hope you can manage to stay there or your fingers are going to get jammed.
10. A sad fact: being glamorous really will get you far ahead of others in life. But so what, really? We can all be glamorous and we can all find opportunities to take our talents and passions where they will be appreciated. You will also never have to doubt that you got there based on hard work and dedication instead of the ability to look like every other Paris clone.
11. Good luck.