It seems that you minimize the huge and primary role that man plays in degrading woman. Songs, films, lewd comments day in and day out. It is a privilege to be sheltered from the harsh reality that men see women as inferior. The average man does not respect females. Chemically, they respond to women as if they were objects. Scientific studies and general human experience have proven this terrible fact. You should not blame women, who are the victims of society, for reinforcing objectification. They are not the ones to blame. No, but they are the ones who will change everything.
My response. Loads of females blame their own sex for the indecent way women are treated and made to feel about themselves. This is the biggest load of horse shit ever.
Often times, I read your posts, dear followers, about how you wish you could get tons of plastic surgery or loose weight. It makes me wish that you knew how beautiful you are.
You are beautiful with or without make up, with or without loosing that weight. I see pictures of you and the thought of your face permanently changing terrifies me.
Why put yourself through the pain of believing that you are ugly? If you truly believed it would be healthy to weigh 90 lbs or if you had been in an airplane crash and had facial burns and scarring, I could understand. But you are letting insecurities and fear of being alone guide you.
There are people who would spend the rest of their lives eternally grateful to look like you, to just look like a normal person or be healthy. Although it’s not your intention, in hating the way you look, you are taking your beauty for granted.
It’s simple. Our culture’s view of beauty is contrary to the natural woman. It tells women they are not good enough as they come. What a horrible illness this perpetuates- the vile hatred of woman’s body and image.
Love your body. Begin a revolution. Don’t blame other women, because they are victims of hatred and an objectifying, disrespectful culture. Be an example and inspire others to love who they are.
You don’t have to start out loving your entire self. You don’t have to start out liking every part of your body. You can start small, by becoming conscious of the way you light up when you smile or even the gap between your teeth. Knees, elbows, delicate ears. Love something.
I promise you, if you continue on the path of hating the way you look, loosing weight and surgery will not fix you.
The only hope is to see that you are not only beautiful, but that you are not your body. Who you are is something that can’t be measured. If you don’t love your body, you do not know yourself.
Make an effort to change and be a part of a revolution
There were probably circumstances. People called you “emotional” when the real problem was you’d lost hope.
The truth is, if you’re not dreaming, if you’re not doing things for yourself, you will loose hope.
When you loose hope, it kills you. You will die without hope.
In order to live, you need to dream and believe in yourself.
The most important thing is to not judge yourself, to tell yourself you will not be disappointed any longer. Reach for the things that are truly the most important to you and do them.
You can, but you won’t if you’re too hard on yourself.
Now that I’ve told you the secret to living, I promise you that if you hold on to hope, even the smallest one, you will become who you were meant to be in life.
Charleene never wanted my parents to have a child, but when they took her to a showing ofThree Men and a Baby she seemed pleased to know I was on the way.
I “came to my senses” riding a Shetland pony. It was tied to a small horse walker in the local skagg’s parking lot. My father stood next to the other parents and took a photograph. Just a few days ago, my mother left the apartment for Virginia.
My father drove me to my grandmother’s house, which was right around the corner. She had all of my toys in a closet and spent time answering the questions I had. Since this was my first memory and the first sliver of consciousness, I had many questions.
I remember my father cried in his room. When I tried to go to him he yelled and my grandmother took me away.
In my dreams, I remembered my mother. I had no word for her, because she wasn’t around. Confused, I called Charleene and my father mama.
It’s odd that my first memory is of riding the shetland pony and that I only remembered my mother through dreams. But it’s possible I had a previous awareness that I blocked out when she left because it was painful.
Charleene loved me. When she died I was inconsolable. The day my father and I moved out of her house for good, I remember her roses were still blooming in the middle of winter. A deep snow covered the ground and I circled beneath the trees that were planted at my birth.
Today, when I level with myself, I think of Charleene. I wonder what that old, busy woman would say to me now. She put a hand on my shoulder as I walked and brushed my hair to one side, always concerned over some minor detail. Drove into corn fields and laughed happily. Spit out the car door. Affectionately called me “a basket case.” Mowed the lawn at 72.
In my desk drawer rest her large spectacles and driver’s license. Sometimes I put them on and pretend to be old and fussy like her, to know as she did that nothing ever truly leaves us.
Not every day, but often I hear Bye Bye Blackbird in the back of my mind. I sing it as my grandmother did to me.
Pack up all my care and woe, here I go, singing low bye bye blacbird
“Let’s stop acting like women who choose to be feminine are somehow colluders, betraying the movement, bamboozled into thinking that they want to be feminine. Let’s stop denying women their own autonomy by telling them that their expressions of femininity are bad and wrong.
Antifemininity is misogynist. What you are saying when you engage in this type of rhetoric is that you think things traditionally associated with women are wrong. Which is misogynist. By telling feminine women that they don’t belong in the feminist movement, you are reinforcing the idea that to be feminine and a woman is wrong, that women who want to be taken seriously need to be more masculine, because most people view gender presentation in binary ways. This rewards the ‘one of the boys’ type rhetoric I encounter all over the place from self-avowed feminists who seem to think that bashing on women is a good way to prove how serious they are when it comes to caring about women and bringing men into the feminist movement.”
- Get Your Anti-Femininity Out Of My Feminism, S.E. Smit
